A GON Reader Asks
We have a lot of clutter. I can't seem to get started on it!
I do my dishes by hand each day and a load of laundry most days.
I raised ten kids including grands and keep a lot of their stuff as they are my life.
I have a hubby who chases junk daily and does his own thing.
We both seem to be obsessed with money...me paying down 40k in card debt cause he quit work at 63; him from needing another vehicle or needing to make repairs on his current one. He is saving for a better mower and plow truck.
Now we have roof repairs so we are consumed daily.
We went from a three-story home where we raised our family to a one-floor doublewide with no basement or attic. So working on it, but very slowly between health issues.
Oh, and I love my one dog and kitties we rescued.
Thanks for all your suggestions and help!
Sadly, my family is disgusted with me and leaves me to my own mess. Our daughters married and have their own lives and families.
Help!
-- Louise
Maria Gracia Responds
Hi Louse,
Thanks so much for your note and for sharing your current situation. I can tell, by your note, that you're trying to focus on many different things at once. This is why you're having a challenge getting started. I can tell you are overwhelmed.
Your best bet is to try to zone in and think of one thing at a time.
Money
I'm guessing this is probably the most stressful challenge for you, and rightfully so. This should be an area of focus.
Have you laid out your current income and expenses on paper?
Are you bringing in enough to lower that card debt or to save for a roof?
Have you taken a good look at your current expenses and how you can reduce anything that isn't an absolute necessity?
If one or both of you are not currently working, can you seek employment to help increase your income?
These are the types of questions to ask yourself. Your current financial situation requires a very proactive approach.
It sounds like you've already downsized to a smaller place, so that is an excellent first step.
Clutter
I'm not sure how much you reduced your clutter before your move, but it sounds like you're still dealing with a lot.
Don't overwhelm yourself. Give yourself a small goal every single day. Declutter just three items a day. Get them out of your house, whether you drive them to the donation drop off, or trash them. Do this without fail....every single day.
It will take awhile, but soon you'll begin to see progress. Don't buy anything that you don't absolutely, positively need.
Also, regarding the stuff you mentioned you're keeping for your grandkids...I'm not sure if you're talking memorabilia or toys, but no matter what, take your focus off of the "stuff" and refocus on "special experiences (going to the park, a free zoo, a picnic, etc." It's OK to keep a small amount, but not so
much that the stuff is taking up a large amount of space in your home.
Self-Care
Finally, your own self-care is important. Take the time to give yourself positive affirmations, like, "I can do this," "I am enough," and "I am strong." No matter how busy you are or how frustrated you feel, give yourself time to get outside and get some fresh air, read a book, meditate in a garden, play with
your grandkids, pet your sweet pets, or enjoy a cup of tea and the sunrise or sunset.
Most important...breathe. Hugs!
