Reader Question from Diane C., Westfield, NJ
Hi Maria,
I have been reading your newsletter for 10+ years and really enjoy it. I recently lost my mom and am in charge of her estate and cleaning out her house that she lived in for 58 years. My sister and I have started cleaning it out.
What we
are doing is going through the entire house and getting rid of anything we don't even have to think twice about. But we need advice on where to donate furniture, pots/pans/dishes/glasses, etc.
We also have a garage and basement full of tools from my dad who died
over 15 years ago. We have been donating the initial items to Green Drop, but I would love to donate where the items will be used by someone who needs them. Any ideas?
Thank you.
Response from Maria
Dear Diane,
First and foremost, I want to offer my deepest condolences to you and your family for the loss of
your mom. Cleaning out a home filled with so many memories is incredibly emotional. The fact that your family is working together to honor both your mom and dad's legacies through donation is truly admirable.
Before considering larger organizations, start local. There may be thrift stores, shelters, churches, or community organizations
right in your area that would love to have your donations. Sometimes these smaller, community-based charities are overlooked, but they often need a variety of items to support families and individuals.
A quick post on Facebook or another social media platform can
be a fantastic way to ask your friends and neighbors which organizations they’ve used for similar donations. Word-of-mouth recommendations can lead you to places you might not have otherwise found.
While you're at it, when you post on social media, you can also ask if anyone personally needs the items you’re looking to give away. You
might be surprised—perhaps someone’s family member or friend could benefit from the very things you’re sorting through.
For example, I recently helped a friend rehome a piano by posting on social media. The next day, they had a taker, and the family picked it up.
It’s a simple way to match those in need with available items.
Once you’ve explored local options, here are a few additional ideas:
Furniture
Habitat for Humanity ReStore: They accept gently used furniture, appliances, and building materials. Proceeds from their sales support affordable housing projects, and individuals often shop here for furnishing their new homes.
Kitchen Items (Pots, Pans, Dishes, Glasses, etc.)
Shelters for Domestic Violence Survivors: Many shelters assist individuals transitioning to independent living and
often need essential kitchenware.
Local Food Banks or Soup Kitchens: These organizations may need kitchenware to serve their communities, ensuring your donations go to people in need.
Tools
Local Vocational Schools or Trade Programs: If your dad’s tools are in good condition, schools and organizations that train people in the trades could put them to good use.
Tool Libraries or Repair Cafes: These community spaces allow people to borrow tools or get help with repairs. Donations to these organizations can help individuals maintain their homes affordably.
You’ve already done so much, and I can imagine it’s been a mix of hard work and deep reflection. You’re doing something incredibly meaningful by ensuring your parents' belongings will continue to serve others, and I hope that provides some comfort as you move forward.
Take it one step at a
time.
Warmly,
