GON Reader Question
Dear Maria,
Thank you for the information that you give out every day. You recently wrote a newsletter about reducing junk mail. While your advice was good, it did not address
my specific problem.
I recently counted the number of charitable organizations I donate to, and it was over 60—about half of which I would like to get rid of.
They are always sending me incentives...countless address labels, greeting cards, bookmarks, photos, or offers to join.
So I return the mail with a polite “please take me off your mailing list,” but I
still get them day after day after day. There does not seem to be any other way I can "unsubscribe."
They are all "worthy causes," but I only have so much money to contribute, and there are certain ones I am happy to support.
What can I do, Maria? It takes time to write back, and even though retired, I am busy every day and can barely keep up with the amount of mail I get. I dread to think what the mailman thinks of me getting 20-30 pieces of mail most days!
-- Linda Wraxalls
Maria's Response
Linda,
I completely understand your frustration! As you said, many charities do incredible work, and it’s wonderful to support causes that make a difference. The problem is, once you give to one organization, your name often gets shared with others, leading to an overwhelming amount of mail.
When I donate, I always ask the charity not to sell, rent, or share my name with other organizations. Many charities will honor this request, and it helps cut down on future solicitations.
I also set aside a certain amount of
money for charitable giving each year and carefully choose the organizations I want to support. That way, I can give meaningfully without feeling pressured by every request that arrives in my mailbox.
One important thing to remember—just because a charity sends you address labels, greeting cards, or other small “gifts,” you are not
obligated to donate or keep any of those items.
Getting Off the Lists
Since writing back hasn’t worked, I encourage you to use the “Do Not Mail” List. The DMAchoice.org website allows you to remove yourself from national
charity and marketing lists, reducing the number of solicitations you receive.
Be Mindful When Donating. Many charities share donor lists, so whenever you make a contribution, include a note asking them not to share or sell your name.
Quickly Sort Through Your Mail. Make two piles when sorting through your mail. Bills and important items in pile A and everything else in pile B. Then, immediately recycle pile B. It's quick and will save you a whole lot of time.
When it comes to the incentives you're getting, like the address labels, bookmarks, or greeting cards, either recycle those immediately...or, if you like them, keep and use them without feeling guilty. There’s nothing wrong with appreciating a kind gesture without committing to future donations.
Giving should feel good, not stressful. It’s wonderful that you support causes that matter to you, and by taking a few steps to manage the influx of mail, you’ll have more energy to focus on the organizations that mean the most to you.
As for your mail carrier? I’m sure he or she isn't phased in
the least. Most people get a lot of mail!
-- Maria
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