Today, my husband and I are celebrating 28 years of marriage. It’s hard to believe how
quickly those years have passed. In that time, we’ve built a home, a family, and lots of fond memories. We look forward to our adventures ahead.
Marriage, like organizing, is a journey. It’s not always tidy. Sometimes it involves sorting through emotional messes, making space for each other’s habits, and learning when to let go—of
stuff, of control, of what no longer works.
So today, in honor of 28 years together, I thought I’d share 28 little lessons I’ve picked up—some about marriage, some about organizing, and some that apply to both.
1. Don’t wait for the perfect
time—start now.
Whether it’s a conversation or a closet clean-out, putting it off usually makes it harder.
2. If it matters to your partner, it should matter to you. Even if you don’t understand the attachment to that one old
sweatshirt.
4. Laughter fixes a lot. A sense of humor goes a long way—especially when assembling furniture together.
5. You don’t have to agree on how to fold towels or sheets. But having a system makes things easier.
6. Let go of what no longer fits—clothes and expectations. Growth means change, and that’s a
good thing.
7. Every home needs a “drop it here” zone—just don’t let it spread. Boundaries are your best friend.
8. Celebrate progress, not
perfection. Nobody lives in a magazine photo shoot. Real life is a little messy—and that’s okay.
9. Keep a basket by the stairs. Toss things in the stair basket during the day and carry it up at night. Saves time and curbs piles. 10. A good night’s sleep helps with everything—especially
important conversations/decisions.
11. Talk about what you both value. Then reflect that in your space. Make room for shared memories and individual joy.
12. Let people keep their weird stuff. As long as it’s not taking over, it can stay. Love allows for quirks.
13. Label things clearly, especially in shared areas. Trust me, it prevents so many “Where did you put…?” moments.
14. Don’t let your TO DO list grow mold. Look it over daily. Work on crossing things off. Add joy in between the tasks.
15. Start with the easy stuff. It builds momentum. Same goes for
arguments—think soft, not sharp.
16. Put down your phone when someone’s talking. Respect is always in style.
19. Create a morning routine that works for both of you. Even five peaceful minutes can change the tone of the day.
20.
Use a whiteboard, shared app, or calendar to track what’s coming up. Avoid the “You didn’t tell me about that!” dance.
21. Make room for beauty. Fresh flowers, a framed photo, a candle. Small touches matter.
22. Declutter resentment. Say what you need. Listen. Repeat.
23. Keep a donation box handy. And when it’s full, don’t delay—drop it off. Clutter isn’t meant to linger.
24. Give each other space. Literally and emotionally.
25. Make organizing a regular habit, not a once-a-year panic. Just like regular check-ins in marriage, maintenance matters.
26. Don’t assume someone knows what you need. Speak up kindly.
27. Choose your battles. Whether it’s over throw pillows or pan placement, decide what’s really worth
discussing.
28. Love is in the details. The quiet support. The small routines. The way you both keep showing up.
Marriage and home life aren’t about perfection—they’re about connection, intention, and grace.
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