A GON Reader Asks:

I have used many of your suggestions successfully. I would like suggestions on taking care of an ill spouse at home. Thank you.

This fabulous GON reader 'Ask Maria' question was submitted by:

Susan Shoop, Ocean City, MD

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Maria Gracia responds:

Hi Susan,

I'm glad my suggestions have been beneficial to you. I hope I could be of some assistance with your question.

First off, hugs! It's not easy to take care of an ill spouse...and my heartfelt thoughts go out to you both and your families.

I don't know the extent of your spouse's illness, but if needed, is there anyone at all who can help you? For instance...

An in-home caregiver may be able to provide assistance with helping your spouse bathe, get dressed, and manage medications.

An adult son or daughter may be able to take one of your 'shifts' or two if needed.

Perhaps a neighbor or teenager would be willing to handle some household chores, like mowing your lawn, taking over laundry duty, or picking up something from the store. Even if you have to pay them, they can be a huge help.

Maybe a good friend or relative can organize a group of friends to make meals for you and your spouse.

I know it's not easy, in our minds and hearts, to accept those helping hands sometimes, but trust me, they can all be a godsend.

Consider using some services you wouldn't normally use. For instance, you can order online from many grocery stores...and either ask someone to pick up for you...or many stores deliver these days for small fees. The grocery store in my area will deliver a large order right to my doorstep for less than ten dollars delivery fee. Prescription medications can often be delivered by companies like Walgreens and CVS. Doing so really helps if your spouse can't be left in the house alone.

Online support groups with people going through similar situations can be of benefit...and you don't have to leave your home to access this communication.

Put things in writing. Jot down questions, in a notebook, for your husband's doctor and how the doctor responded...so you don't forget. Set timers on your phone or watch for medications. Take a nap, or do something otherwise nice for yourself, while your spouse is napping.

Don't do things for your spouse that your spouse can do on his own. You're there to help when assistance is needed...but if your spouse can get his own water, allow that to happen. If your spouse can get dressed without assistance, allow that to happen. This is the case...even if it takes more time for your spouse to do these activities. It's important that your spouse retains dignity and independence whenever possible.

If possible, spend some time outside with your spouse...even if it's just in your back yard. Fresh air and sunshine makes everything seem better.

Don't dwell on your husband's illness, especially when you're sharing time with him. Try to focus on fun stories, fond memories, something you saw on TV...it makes your time together more fulfilling.

While you're being your husband's caregiver, it's extremely important that you take care of yourself. This is where many caregiving situations fall apart...because the extra needs can be demanding of your time, physical energy, and mental energy.

You need to eat healthy.
You need your rest.
You need to continue your exercise routine.
You need to be able to take an hour to have coffee with a friend.
You deserve a hot, lingering shower to destress.
You need to have time to watch a movie or read a book.

Bottom line...you need to take care of you. Your spouse will be in much better hands if you're taking caring of yourself.

If there's something more specific that I haven't answered, send me another note. And in the meantime, I'm sending you all my best thoughts and wishes.

Maria

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